Life is Unpredictable

I know this topic is "heavy". Also I never talk with people for "heavy" topics because I believe everyone can learn his/her lesson from life without openly talks about it. Also I hate to press my ideas to others. However, I want to share this friend's story here because it teaches me something about life.

It is about a friend of my husband. I only saw him once more than 6 years ago. That day we went to get our advanced programmer certificate. He was also there. We exchanged a few words like “hello”, “how are you”, etc.. My impression was that he was a big guy but seemed quite shy.

Then that friend and my husband joined the same company. At that time, their salary was quite decent for new graduates. I was still studying for my master degree and we needed to rent an apartment, give some money to parents and buy all stuff ourselves. Even we were as "stingy" as possible; we had about 30k RMB left after 2 years. At that time we heard that friend already had 100k RMB in his savings account. Quite a shock to us.

Couple months after we were together in US, we heard that friend met a serious car accident. He was with his wife on a bus back from a trip. Until now, he loses control of his body below chest line.

Just before the accident, he got a new job, bought a new apartment, got married... Everything seemed to be on the right course till a sudden accident.

We got a little news about him. He is recovering but hard to know he can stand up in the future or not. His company is nice and continued paying him 6 months after his accident. His family is going to sue the bus company but I really doubt how much money they can get.

I am NOT telling this story to make other people upset. I am NOT asking people's sympathy for this friend. I am NOT complaining about life. I only want to say: please remember that LIFE IS UNPREDICTABLE and please try your best to enjoy everyday.

If something expensive can make you happy, just go ahead to buy it. Money is nothing comparing to happiness. If you want to tell something to someone, say it today. When I hear people say “because I am only going to spend three years here, I decide to live in a crappy room with crappy furniture”, I am thinking “what a joke”. Why three years now is not as precious as three years in the future? Any single day is a precious gift to us.

LIFE IS UNPREDICTABLE. Please, please do NOT wait for tomorrow. Please do not sacrifice today’s happiness for tomorrow. Every night before sleep, can you tell yourself “I have finished everything I can do today and I am not regretting that I waste the day”?

[In the end, wish this friend best luck.]