很久不见的朋友们 my old-time friends

你们都还好吗？晚上想起一个断了来往的好朋友，google了一番找到了，看看照片，突然觉得心里的感觉很淡，觉得她的样子很陌生。心里有点难过。

前不久做了个噩梦，梦见很多以前的初中同学，然后大家一起把酒言欢。说是噩梦，是因为醒过来的时候感觉坏极了，觉得这么些人，可能一辈子都见不到了。说不是很密切的朋友吧，偏偏还是暗暗在意着。

朋友之间，我喜欢平淡的。如果愿意听我讲，我可以交心，没什么秘密不能说，没什么我不敢说的。如果有人愿意告诉我，我也可以听，给我的意见。自己的重担，不去压在别人的肩上，给人的，但愿都是开心吧。如果保持热络是个负担，不如大家都轻装前进的好。

所以说，多年不见的朋友，想和我联系的话，别犹豫，懒惰的话，没关系。祝你们一切都好。

Good soup recipe: Wild rice-cranberry soup

Western style soups are very different comparing to Chinese style soups. This weekend I tried this recipe and it's awesome!

Ingredients:
- 4 TBS butter
- 1 carrot, finely chopped (i didn't use)
- 1 celery stalk, finely chopped
- 1/2 cup finely chopped onion ( that is 1/2 of a big onion or 1 very small onion)
- 3 TBS all-purpose flour
- 3 cups vegetable stock (i used water)
- 1 1/2 cups cooked wild rice
- 1/2 cup dried cranberries
- 1 cup milk or half and half (i used 2% milk)
- 2 TBS dry sherry (optional, i didn't use)
- salt and pepper to table

1. Cook wild rice
- 1/2 cup rice + 2 cups water + some salt bring to boil
- cover and simmer about 45-55 minutes
- drain
- makes about 1 1/2 cups cooked wild rice

2. Cook soup
- heat butter over medium heat, add carrot, celery and onion. stir occasionally till carrot is tender, about 8 mins
- add four and stir till smooth. Add vegetable stock (water), whisk, increase heat to medium-high and stir till thickened, about 5 mins
- stir in rice and cranberries, reduce heat and simmer. till cranberries are softened and plumped, about 15 mins
- stir in milk and dry sherry (if use). stir occasionally and season to taste.
- garnish with fried sage or minced fresh flat leaf parsley.

This is a tasty and chewy winter soup. Easy and good taste!

More about INTJ

this is so me... i am too shocked!!!

Introverted iNtuitive Thinking Judging
by Marina Margaret Heiss

Profile: INTJ
Revision: 3.0
Date of Revision: 27 Feb 2005

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To outsiders, INTJs may appear to project an aura of "definiteness", of self-confidence. This self-confidence, sometimes mistaken for simple arrogance by the less decisive, is actually of a very specific rather than a general nature; its source lies in the specialized knowledge systems that most INTJs start building at an early age. When it comes to their own areas of expertise -- and INTJs can have several -- they will be able to tell you almost immediately whether or not they can help you, and if so, how. INTJs know what they know, and perhaps still more importantly, they know what they don't know.

INTJs are perfectionists, with a seemingly endless capacity for improving upon anything that takes their interest. What prevents them from becoming chronically bogged down in this pursuit of perfection is the pragmatism so characteristic of the type: INTJs apply (often ruthlessly) the criterion "Does it work?" to everything from their own research efforts to the prevailing social norms. This in turn produces an unusual independence of mind, freeing the INTJ from the constraints of authority, convention, or sentiment for its own sake.

INTJs are known as the "Systems Builders" of the types, perhaps in part because they possess the unusual trait combination of imagination and reliability. Whatever system an INTJ happens to be working on is for them the equivalent of a moral cause to an INFJ; both perfectionism and disregard for authority may come into play, as INTJs can be unsparing of both themselves and the others on the project. Anyone considered to be "slacking," including superiors, will lose their respect -- and will generally be made aware of this; INTJs have also been known to take it upon themselves to implement critical decisions without consulting their supervisors or co-workers. On the other hand, they do tend to be scrupulous and even-handed about recognizing the individual contributions that have gone into a project, and have a gift for seizing opportunities which others might not even notice.

In the broadest terms, what INTJs "do" tends to be what they "know". Typical INTJ career choices are in the sciences and engineering, but they can be found wherever a combination of intellect and incisiveness are required (e.g., law, some areas of academia). INTJs can rise to management positions when they are willing to invest time in marketing their abilities as well as enhancing them, and (whether for the sake of ambition or the desire for privacy) many also find it useful to learn to simulate some degree of surface conformism in order to mask their inherent unconventionality.

Personal relationships, particularly romantic ones, can be the INTJ's Achilles heel. While they are capable of caring deeply for others (usually a select few), and are willing to spend a great deal of time and effort on a relationship, the knowledge and self-confidence that make them so successful in other areas can suddenly abandon or mislead them in interpersonal situations.

This happens in part because many INTJs do not readily grasp the social rituals; for instance, they tend to have little patience and less understanding of such things as small talk and flirtation (which most types consider half the fun of a relationship). To complicate matters, INTJs are usually extremely private people, and can often be naturally impassive as well, which makes them easy to misread and misunderstand. Perhaps the most fundamental problem, however, is that INTJs really want people to make sense. :-) This sometimes results in a peculiar naivete', paralleling that of many Fs -- only instead of expecting inexhaustible affection and empathy from a romantic relationship, the INTJ will expect inexhaustible reasonability and directness.

Probably the strongest INTJ assets in the interpersonal area are their intuitive abilities and their willingness to "work at" a relationship. Although as Ts they do not always have the kind of natural empathy that many Fs do, the Intuitive function can often act as a good substitute by synthesizing the probable meanings behind such things as tone of voice, turn of phrase, and facial expression. This ability can then be honed and directed by consistent, repeated efforts to understand and support those they care about, and those relationships which ultimately do become established with an INTJ tend to be characterized by their robustness, stability, and good communications.

I am INTJ!

I am shocked! This test knows me better than I did.

http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp

YOUR TYPE
I N T J
Strength of the preferences %
33 62 12 67

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The Portait of the Mastermind (INTJ)

Of the four aspects of strategic analysis and definition, it is the contingency planning or entailment organizing role that reaches the highest development in Masterminds. Entailing or contingency planning is not an informative activity, rather it is a directive one in which the planner tells others what to do and in what order to do it. As the organizing capabilities the Masterminds increase so does their inclination to take charge of whatever is going on.

It is in their abilities that Masterminds differ from the other Rationals, while in most of their attitudes they are just like the others. However there is one attitude that sets them apart from other Rationals: they tend to be much more self-confident than the rest, having, for obscure reasons, developed a very strong will. They are rather rare, comprising no more than, say, one percent of the population. Being very judicious, decisions come naturally to them; indeed, they can hardly rest until they have things settled, decided, and set. They are the people who are able to formulate coherent and comprehensive contingency plans, hence contingency organizers or "entailers."

Masterminds will adopt ideas only if they are useful, which is to say if they work efficiently toward accomplishing the Mastermind's well-defined goals. Natural leaders, Masterminds are not at all eager to take command of projects or groups, preferring to stay in the background until others demonstrate their inability to lead. Once in charge, however, Masterminds are the supreme pragmatists, seeing reality as a crucible for refining their strategies for goal-directed action. In a sense, Masterminds approach reality as they would a giant chess board, always seeking strategies that have a high payoff, and always devising contingency plans in case of error or adversity. To the Mastermind, organizational structure and operational procedures are never arbitrary, never set in concrete, but are quite malleable and can be changed, improved, streamlined. In their drive for efficient action, Masterminds are the most open-minded of all the types. No idea is too far-fetched to be entertained-if it is useful. Masterminds are natural brainstormers, always open to new concepts and, in fact, aggressively seeking them. They are also alert to the consequences of applying new ideas or positions. Theories which cannot be made to work are quickly discarded by the Masterminds. On the other hand, Masterminds can be quite ruthless in implementing effective ideas, seldom counting personal cost in terms of time and energy.

abby的ONS

昨天晚上看ER，心痛得半夜也睡不着。

Abby的过去经历就是一本厚书，她并不是我在ER里最喜欢的角色。但是我一直很佩服她的坚强。终于她当上医生，结婚了，有了孩子。这次因为孩子的意外， 丈夫的远行，她从用酒精麻醉自己，不由自主地寻找肉体的安慰，和上司的one night stand，然后醒过来以后的心痛和无法挽回。她在机场里抱着孩子痛哭的时候，我的心也一下子碎了。

问题不在ONS上。所谓的道德感，肉体的纯洁对我来说无足轻重。让我难过的是人的软弱，软弱中绝望地寻找安慰，可是那样的安慰只会带来更多心痛罢了。

//sigh下一集她的老公终于要回来了，我很喜欢的角色，一个有担当的好人。就象Abby说的，it doesn't matter if you screw up once, everybody screws up。希望她好起来把。

大家都要坚强努力哦。